Why Gender is important to me

What really has started bothering me is this growing trend of throwing out gender categories. I am all for progress and evolving as a society but I strongly disagree with the sentiment that this should come at the cost of gender.

The first time I heard about this trend was ahead of the MTV movie awards. The categories best actor and best actress were molded into one category called “best actor”. To me it was so offensive. I do not understand how this is supposed to be progress. I do not think that men and women are the same, and in the best way possible. Women are beautiful, smart and fierce individuals, but in no way can the experience of a women can be equalled with that of a man or a gender fluid person. Killing off the “best actress” category to me is a statement that being a female actress is no longer worth being celebrated or rewarded.

My favorite show this year has been Big Little Lies, highlighting the female experience as a whole. It is awesome being a woman! Nobody should be afraid to own their gender and the experience that comes with it. I am pretty tired of being told otherwise. Individuality is beautiful, so why are there so many people out there trying to tell me I should no longer be viewed as a woman, but as a “person”? It is baffling to me.

Just today an article showed up on my Newsfeed, that the retailer John Lewis got rid of seperate boys and girls section. It was painted as some kind of win for all of society. This just made me sad. I am all for girls wearing pink dinosaur dresses and boys being allowed to own a doll without being stigmatized. Still, at a young age children are so impressionable. Which message is this sending to young children? It is no longer important whether a child is a boy or a girl? Don’t be proud of who you are as a young women or young boy? Boys and girls have different needs that should be met also in the clothing department and it just seems blatantly ignorant to me.

How did we start off teaching young women to be ashamed of themselves to think they are less because of their gender, then finally made some progress and taught women to be proud and strong and own their femininity and now take a huge step backwards where we are teaching our children that it does not matter anymore?

I hope when I have a daughter or son one day that he or she will grow up in a society that once again will celebrate their gender.

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